This is the only way I know how to say it so, let’s just say it. It’s normal to feel like your self-confidence has been slapped to curb after a split. You will feel like you have been beaten down, no matter how beautiful you are. Although you might not feel attractive or beautiful, the universe may still tell you why you aren’t finding love. We’ve all been there. It is imperative that you get out of this place quickly!
How can you get over a broken relationship? You tell yourself every day that you have no other choice but to move on. When you take the time to improve yourself, you find social events to attend and can reach out to your friends. Take up a spin class. Learn to dance. Find a hobby and do something. If you’ve made your whole life about a relationship, it’s easy for your needs to be forgotten and your daily grind can take over. It’s difficult to keep your cool and get out of the darkest hour of a breakup. Go out, you have to! Don’t be shy about getting dressed up and hitting the streets. It’s a great way to lift your spirits. Get busy and passionate about what you do. Men will soon be chasing you down if you do this.
You have a good chance that getting back into the dating scene is not something you are thinking about. To get your life on track, you may need to immediately enter dating detox. Consider where you were emotionally when Mr. Ex first met you. You were probably at a place in your life that was open to receiving love, and willing to give it. The basic needs of a woman are affection, love, and attention. These needs are not affected by a breakup. You will eventually desire to find someone who is capable of giving you affection and attention as well as being able to meet all your needs.
Let me ask you a question. Do you love yourself? Do you feel happy? Think about this question. Take some time, two weeks or more if necessary to connect with the one who matters most…you. Men attract women who mirror themselves. The law of attraction states that likes attract likes. If you don’t love yourself or aren’t in love with yourself, it will be difficult to attract a man who loves you and likes you.
Don’t think about dating during this time. Don’t worry about Mr. Ex. Instead, focus on finding Mr. You have to understand that happiness is not dependent on any man in the world. One person may make you happy, but you must first make yourself happy. While it’s wonderful to meet someone who adds value or enhances your life, you must be able to say “I have a great lifestyle and I’m looking to share that with others and grow from that.” I can understand if that is not what you are looking for. Let me know if you need any help.
Perhaps you don’t want a relationship right away. You can make small adjustments that will improve your life and keep you busy. It’s hard to be happy and content in a short time. It is important to constantly look for ways to improve your life and to be open to love when it comes knocking. No Contact allows you to see the positives in your life and gives you space to reflect on all aspects.
Make a list of all the things you love doing that are not being done in a relationship during No Contact for the first month. You can do whatever it takes to feel amazing and beautiful. Get started with the basics.
A Mini-Makeover – You don’t need to do anything major, but you can make subtle changes in your appearance. Perhaps you want to experiment with a new style or add some highlights. You deserve a manicure and pedicure. Spa days can do wonders for girls. They help you relax, lift your spirits and make you feel great. To feel amazing, make an appointment.
What does your Wardrobe say about you? It doesn’t mean you have to wear designer labels. But if you are walking into a bookstore or anywhere else in sweats and a T-shirt, then it’s time to stop! Do your best with the resources you have. You can go on a shopping spree if you have the money. You’ll enjoy it, it will take up your time, and you’ll feel happy when you wear your new clothes. You feel better when you look good.
What is the most recent time you contacted an old friend or relative? You do remember those friends you forgot to contact when you were too busy with Mr. Ex. Send a text message at least to five friends from your contacts list. You might be able to strike up a conversation with a few of your friends and maybe even arrange for a lunch date, or dinner. It will make you feel happy, give off a great vibe, and help you maintain a positive mental attitude.
Get to the gym – It’s more important than ever to stay healthy. You’ll feel healthier and less stressed while doing it. You don’t have to go to the gym. Instead, get a friend to join you and walk around a park in your city.
Girl’s Night out – Invite a few close friends to a girls’ night out. These girls are the ones you can vent to about your feelings and not worry about them being judgmental. These girls are the ones you can trust to protect your most intimate secrets. It’s amazing how much venting your emotions can help you get through a breakup.
Make Your House Clean – Mr. Ex or Mrs. Right won’t walk into your house, see a mess and say, “This is the woman for me!” They won’t bring their friends to your house to have a good time, and they certainly won’t sleep in it. You don’t need a penthouse to make it a home. However, being organized and clean is not expensive. Take advantage of what you already have. You’ve lived in your home for one year and still haven’t packed all the boxes. Maybe you have ten loads to wash. Last but not least, make sure to remove any photos of Mr. Ex. It’s true that the old saying, “Out of sight is out of mind” is true. It’s amazing how one small thing can quickly remove sadness from your daily life. Set a date to clean up your home. Once you’re done, you will be one step closer to happiness.
Make a date with yourself to read New York Times Best Selling books The Rules:
- Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing The Heart of Mr. Right
- The Rules II: More Rules to Live and Love By written by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.
Some of the rules are outdated, but you can modify them to make your own rules. These two books are used by women all over the globe as dating bibles. These books will give you the answers you need to be successful in dating and show you how to avoid making the same mistakes with your ex. You don’t have to worry, we’ve all done them. Do what you can to make yourself feel loved and cared for.