Category: Relationships

It hurts that you broke up! You are so miserable that you don’t believe anyone can understand. You may not want to share the overwhelming emotions you feel with anyone, let alone yourself. The pain, anger, and disappointment you feel, as well as fear and fear, are all normal.

You don’t want to allow any one of these negatives to get out of control. Understanding what’s going on inside of you will help you to manage the pain and ultimately rise above it.

Are You Angrily? You Bet!

Anger is a natural emotion that reacts to other emotions. Anger can be triggered by unkind words, disappointment, and the dissolution of a relationship. Here’s how it works.

When:

• You are not able to meet your personal needs.
• You may perceive injury as real or imagined to yourself.
• You find the situation unacceptable, disturbing, or harmful.
• It is frustrating.
• Your state of enjoyment is disrupted.

All the above factors contribute to your anger over the loss of your loved one. For a complete list, add the following:

• Lack of closure
• Inability to reunite you with your loved ones
• Communication barriers that prevent you from communicating with your estranged spouse
• You fail to convince your partner that you are still in love with them
• False perceptions and malicious intentions are revealed
• Unable to understand why love failed

Is your anger excessive? If you are displaying anger, fury, and wrath, it could be an indication of excessive anger. It can be difficult to control your anger, as we all know.

Kenneth S. Isaacs is a Chicago psychotherapist, author, and educator. He believes that anger is part of our animal nature, which encourages us to harm others to protect ourselves.

In the end, love relationships are broken down when people verbally attack each other and say things they don’t mean. Later, they regret these statements.

Here’s an easy way to reduce anger

1. Talk it out with someone.
2. Use your energy. You can run, play a sport, or spar with a punching box.
3. Do a time-out. Do a time-out.
4. Talk to yourself.
5. You must focus on how you can use it to your advantage.
6. For excessive, uncontrollable anger, seek help immediately!

It’s not wise to allow your anger to simmer, boil, or overflow. This will make it difficult to make rational, sensible decisions about your relationships with loved ones and can even lead to a breakdown. You should make an effort to control your anger if you are prone to displaying excessive anger.

The Pain Of Unanswered Love

Happiness is found in mutual love and affection. If love isn’t reciprocated, the opposite happens. Unrequited love can lead to misery, agony, and unhappiness. That may be how you feel.

Research has shown that women are more likely to experience broken hearts, unrequited affection, and the end of a relationship than men. Females are also more likely to feel mistreated or exploited and suffer greater emotional harm when relationships end.

Men believe that they were used to provide emotional support and ego boosters when women suddenly withdraw from their romantic interest. It’s not nearly as shocking.

Ask yourself if your symptoms are similar to those seen in others.

1. A loss in self-esteem
2. Personal thoughts about worthlessness and inadequacy
3. Self-doubt
4. Diminished confidence
5. Trust erosion
6. Feeling vulnerable
7. Depression can occur at any time.
8. Tension is on the rise
9. Feelings of grief
10. Self-pity
11. Rejection in large doses
12. Inward movement and the erection of barriers

After you have assessed your injuries you can apply the first-aid tips to treat your immediate wounds.

Romantic Injuries: First-Aid Tips & Antidotes

These first-aid tips will help you to ease your pain and speed up the healing process. Each tip is a powerful dose of medicine.

1. Recognize the pain.
2. Let go of your unhappiness and discomfort.
3. Do not dwell on the question “What’s wrong?”
4. Ask the guy what is wrong and why he/she didn’t like you.
5. Spend time with people who are kind and give praise.
6. Doing so will increase your self-confidence and reduce self-doubt.
7. Take a man or woman with you to the pub who is enthusiastic about what you see in them.
8. Find new ways to satisfy your desire for love and belonging.
9. Do not allow yourself to pout at home.
10. Look for the company of others.

Without identifying the symptoms and determining the cause, it is difficult to recover from a serious illness. This is true even for someone who has experienced heartache, rejection, or disappointment. It is crucial to recognize how you have been hurt by love and the ways you are displaying that pain. Self-knowledge can speed up your recovery, help you determine the best places to apply bandages and when you will need to receive a boost of self-confidence.

How To Deal With Feelings Of Rejection

Another annoying, natural, and inevitable condition of being human is the sensitivity to rejection. It can lead to humiliation and even loss of acceptance. It is possible to see the rejection objectively if you can quickly move past the emotional aspect.

Let’s suppose Robby split with Robin. Robin immediately wondered what was wrong. She couldn’t keep Robby. She felt sad, unattractive, and depressed. She realized that Robby was far more sensitive to her situation than she thought. She was smarter than Robby and had more ambitions than Robby. Robby was also more active than her.

They were not compatible. She was perfect. It was not a good match. That’s it. Robin didn’t realize that her initial rejection felt like a stinging sensation. It was a result of something she had done in the past. Elayne Savage (Ph.D.), the author of Don’t Take It Personal (New Harbinger Publications 1997), suggests that we keep a list of notions about rejection from childhood to adulthood.

This is how we feel about being rejected. Robin was seven when her dad left the family. Robin heard her mother telling her friends at the time that her husband wasn’t loving her anymore. Robin listened to her mother’s response and adopted it into her belief system. She believed that male rejection was due to her inadequacy whenever she faced it.

Beating Rejection

Elayne Savage Ph.D. is a rejection expert who says you can beat rap if:

1. Rejection is not something to be taken personally. Only then can you determine if your feelings are justified or rooted in the past.
2. You learn to empathize with others and understand their perspectives.
3. To gain a better understanding of the situation and to reduce the emotional flood, you need to step out of the situation.
4. It is not okay for someone to reject you or make you feel inferior.
5. We understand your feelings of rejection.
6. Recognize the rejection, accept it, and then move on.
7. Fear of rejection should not stop you from taking action.

You are now ready to overcome self-doubt by having a new perspective on rejection and seven great suggestions for how to get past it. Although it may take some time to master the steps, it is worth the effort. You will find self-determination and confidence when you don’t take rejection personally. These three attributes can help you rise from the hard reality of a split.

Romantic Depression Topples

Do you feel anxious, depressed, fatigued, stressed, anxious, worried, angry, or blue? You may be experiencing depression symptoms. You don’t need to panic and book an appointment for intensive, immediate, and comprehensive psychotherapy sessions. Mild depression is common in people between 25 and 40 years old. It’s a natural response to the loss of love. Nearly everyone feels the blues at least once a week. For men, money is the primary reason for their woes; for women it’s relationships.

How To Climb Out Of The Dumps

You might be able to make it out of your own misery. Unconsciously, people are skilled at changing their moods and finding new distractions. If you feel blue, you might choose to watch a comedy, go on a vacation to somewhere sunny and warm, or indulge in carbs and chocolate (if a girl) or red meat and proteins (if a man). You have probably found your own way out of the pits.

You have learned what results in you like and what makes you feel good. This is because you have been conditioned to respond in this way. If you feel low, you will automatically return to the same behavior.

Some people enjoy a glass of wine, talking to friends, drinking wine, and running a few miles. Keep trying if you don’t find your magic bean. Ellen McGrath, psychologist and author of When Feeling Bad Is Good (Henry Holt and Company 1992) says that it is important to manage your emotions positively and lead to action.

Depression Out-of-Hand

These are signs that your depression is more severe than a mild, normal range. Professional assistance may be required.

• Inability to fall asleep
• Energy deficiency is a serious problem
• A permanent state of agitation
• Continual fatigue
• A serious drop in self-esteem
• Incapability to feel pleasure

If you experience any of these side effects of romantic depression and you are unable or unwilling to get rid of the gloomy feeling, it is worth seeking professional help.

Stand up against fear and worry

You’re dumbfounded as you stand in a restaurant. Frieda and Fred have just broken up with you. Fear and worry can creep in, regardless of whether you are willing to admit it. Ask yourself: Will I ever find someone to love me and marry?

Experts in the field say that the more you worry, you will worry more. You will be skilled at worrying. If you can imagine the worst scenario, you can fixate on the negative side of things and worry about what could go wrong, even though everything seems fine.

The constant worrier is exaggerated. The perpetual worrier will worry about never finding a partner, instead of simple worries such as where to meet new people or who will be their date for the black-tie affair at work next week.

Definition of Worry

It’s not hard to see. Worry is a result of fear. Add emotion, memory, anticipation, imagination, and a bit of imagination to a fear. You get something extra that makes you feel powerless and vulnerable. Worry is a sign of uncertainty and a lack of trust in the future. The sympathy of others only serves to reinforce the idea that something is wrong and that you need to worry.

Here Are Some Ways To Get Rid Of Your Romantic Worries

There is no way to avoid worrying. Everyone does it. In 1997, German scientists discovered a worry gene.

Psychologists maintain that genes are secondary to determining how worried you are and what worries you have. It is important to consider your environment and how you approach problems and deal with them.

You have the power to control your worries, and you should not let them cause anxiety or stress. These are some ways to reduce romantic worries.

1. Exercise is the best treatment. While you’re at it, go to a gym and meet people you like to run with.
2. Prayer and meditation are both relaxing and reduce worry. Nearly every synagogue or church has a singles group.
3. Keep going out to meet new people. They will confirm that there are many eligible men and women available for you.
4. Brad Schmidt, Ohio State University associate professor of psychology, believes that the best way to reduce worry is to identify what you are concerned about. Then, evaluate honestly whether the concern is realistic and reasonable. You will find that you are not justified in worrying given the circumstances.

The emotions that can flood your life after a breakup include worrying, anger, sadness, depression, and even despair. There are ways to reduce the effects of worry and fear, just like the anger, pain and depression that accompany a breakup.

It is difficult enough to end a relationship. It can be difficult to decide whether or not you should give someone your walking papers. One remains indecisive because of ambivalent emotions and opposing motives. For too long, uncertainty keeps women and men in unhealthy, unsatisfying, unwise relationships.

How many times have your ex-partners threatened to end the relationship? How many times has your partner lulled you back into his arms by romantic gestures, an artistic arbitrator, or a Saturday night without a date?

It is not enough to base your decision on a bouquet of roses, an excellent night of sex, or a mildly appealing partner. You can argue for staying together or breaking up. This chapter serves as your mini-workbook. This chapter will help you to explore the facts and uncover relevant evidence that can be used to eliminate ambivalence or indecision. Step by step for maximum results

Developing the Necessary Objectivity

It is essential to have the ability to be objective in your investigations. However, it can be difficult. It is essential to be objective and free from bias. You can’t continue without taking the first step.

After the soul-searching, you will still be confused and confounded. To get started, play a game. Play the role of a friend in the relationship you are looking at. You have been asked for advice by her.

Be free from prejudices and personal feelings. However, you should still be sensitive. Look inward. You might be surprised at the things you see. A neutral mindset is essential for romantic objectivity. Numerous studies will convince you that a neutral mindset is essential when making a romantic choice. Clear your mind of any thoughts that might cloud your judgment. You can sit down and have a clear, neutral seat of judgment that isn’t influenced by bad moods. If you don’t have a good mood, even the best times could turn into a dinginess. You don’t have to let your hair down before you can get back on track. Go to the gym, or eat that cake. Find your mental balance.

You must stop listening to your heart and body. Put aside the passions and heat of your body. The previous chapters should have convinced you that neither of these is objective or reliable decision-makers. Put an end to your anger. Let go of the sadness. Put aside the desire for love. You must put an end to the hurt feelings. Is the plot full of revenge? Let go of the denial. You can’t watch a romantic movie in a darkened theater if you want to keep this balance while making a romantic choice. You shouldn’t go to a romantic, intimate restaurant with loving couples. Do not listen to love songs.

Rely on the facts. You should be able to clearly present the facts if you have met the requirements of the previous two steps. It’s up to you to interpret them. We have seen enough court cases that show how even substantial evidence can be misinterpreted.

You will be less likely to be led astray with wishful thinking, disappointment, or perceived rejection if you can rely on the hard facts. Don’t be surprised if your love interest doesn’t call you when he promised. Ask why! Don’t excuse your date if she doesn’t turn up for an important engagement. Find out the truth. Ask her whereabouts. Accept only plausible answers.

What Do You Want From This Relationship?

Without knowing what you want from a relationship, you can’t assign critical standards of measurement.

It is essential, to be honest, and unadulterated. You cannot fool yourself. You can admit that you are seeking a husband. You can also search for a romantic travel companion.

Make a decision. Here are my suggestions after you have made that determination:

• You should use the most stringent and reasonable standards possible to ensure a happy marriage.
• If you are in love with someone who is living together, then no lower than spousal requirements will be required. You can take your time if you are unsure but believe this person has potential. You are not being forced to make a decision.
• If you are looking for a romantic relationship, you should make sure that you don’t get hurt by a split.
• Be careful if you are looking for a sexual partner. You should ensure that he/she is healthy, has a great lover, and that you both are on the same page.

Why Are You Tempted To End Your Relationship?

You might be unable to pinpoint the cause, but one of these reasons may help. Pay attention to warning labels when you pick the one that you like. Some things are more difficult to fix than others. Boredom. Boredom is the main reason that couples end up splitting up. It can be experienced by both men and women. It doesn’t matter if the person is able to see it or not. If she feels trapped in a routine and has fallen into a rut, she will likely try to escape. It is not enough to make every scene mysterious and choreograph each step with new steps. Boredom is likely a result of mismatched personalities, interests, needs, passions, and it doesn’t provide enough excitement. The outside world is more stimulating and appealing than the inside of the relationship.

You might be stuck with boredom if your eye is constantly wandering because your partner is too predictable. Standing Still.

Your relationship is in a stalemate, you’re stuck at crucial intersections and no one is moving in the right direction. This means that your relationship is not moving in the direction you desire. This is often the case for women.

It is more common for men to have sex or live together than marriage. If there aren’t any signs of love, it could lead to a long-term stalemate. Romantic love is almost always the driving force behind men to get married or committed. They were romantics long before women realized that love was the best reason for them to be married.

An 80 percent of college men said that they wouldn’t marry someone unless they fell in love. Real love takes time to develop. You may have just realized that you are fooling yourself. Your relationship is built on familiarity and comfort.

You were happy to find a partner who met your immediate needs but not your long-term ones. You moved to another city, met new people, or had a life-altering event.

You were unable to remain complacent. You suddenly become critical of your partner and unhappy in your relationship. However, be careful that your change of heart is not temporary.

No Chemistry. You just don’t get turned on. Although your love interest may be a wonderful person with all the qualities you desire, it might not be right for you.

You can’t convince yourself that you are attracted to someone. A 30-year-old doctor confessed that he had found the perfect woman. She was intelligent; they were great friends; they had a wonderful time together; their family was fantastic; she could be an asset to his career.

However, there was no passion in his lovemaking. He tried to convince himself to a relationship that would lead him to marriage but couldn’t improve the chemistry at the lab. He ended up breaking it off. It was not surprising that he ended up on the other side.

5 Reasons to Stay

Consider whether you are overlooking good reasons to stay before you say goodbye.

Your love interest:

1. She makes your day easier simply because she is part of your life
2. It makes you feel great about yourself
3. He is fun to be around, and you want more information about him
4. Are you able to share your love, values, and goals with someone?
5. It stimulates your growth and helps you feel more confident.

10 Reasons to Leave

There are too many reasons to leave that outweigh the reasons to stay. Each of the following is a sign of a unhealthy relationship. You can do better!

1. The relationship is unbalanced and lacking equality.
2. This person was repeatedly lying to you.
3. You were cheated on more than once by him or her.
4. You don’t show love by canceling plans, showing up late, or breaking off dates.
5. This person is verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive.
6. He doesn’t pay his fair share for your living-in home.
7. She can lower your self-esteem, hinder your growth, and prevent you from achieving your personal goals.
8. Your partner is not open to tolerance and is dangerously jealous.
9. You can’t make one another laugh.
10. He was a meal ticket. Now you’re on a diet.

In a few years, the pain that you feel now will be forgotten. You can save yourself from the pain by moving on slowly and enjoying life to the fullest.

You can have a better life and meet more quality women. You can invest more time in your career, learn new skills, and travel more.

Because you are not able to be with one woman at a time, it is impossible to connect. You must reinvent yourself to become the man you were meant to be.

Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do what you want and work hard. You will find the right people to be in your life and they will stay. But right now, it is all about rebuilding your life.

The Non Negotiable

These non-negotiables can be broken while you’re still recovering from a breakup, no matter how long ago or last week. This will make it more difficult for you to fully recover and slow down the healing process.

These non-negotiables will help you feel great and prevent you from falling into depression. Because depression can make it impossible to function as a human being. You will feel more depression from the pain of the breakup. But, it is also because you are not doing these things.

To recover from the breakup, you must put yourself in the best possible condition so that you can rebuild your strength.

To increase your testosterone levels, you should lift heavy weights at least three times per week. Vasopressin, a chemical that is responsible for attachment in the brain, is reduced by testosterone. Your body releases serotonin, the happy chemical, and vasopressin, the attachment chemical, to signal your body that you are having sex with a woman. This is because your body knows this will result in procreation.

Your body will produce more testosterone if you have less vasopressin. This means that you will feel less chemically attached to your ex.

You can also increase your testosterone by lifting heavier weights such as deadlifts, bench presses, and squats. These workouts don’t require you to be the strongest guy in the gym. Just do what you can and slowly add weight.

Exercise releases dopamine and endorphins in the brain, which makes you feel good. Keep active and your body will supply all the neurotransmitters it needs to remain mentally and emotionally healthy.

Healthy eating habits are important. Unhealthy eating can lead to a feeling of fatigue, sluggishness, and depression.

Increase your intake of chicken, turkey, fish, and other vegetables. Two green smoothies are recommended: one in the morning and one in the evening. Each one contains 1 banana, 5 strawberries and a handful of spinach or kale, as well as two carrots and four ice cubes.

Get at least 8 glasses of water each day. Your brain tissue is made up 85% water. If you don’t give your brain the nutrients it needs, your body will be in a poor state.

To fully recover and perform at your best, you need to get 7-8 hours of sleep. Depression can be diagnosed if you don’t sleep enough or are constantly awake. Depression can lead to a breakdown. You must combat this by getting enough sleep.

Turn off your phone and TV by midnight, get off social media. Instead, read a book, write a journal and listen to soothing music.

Use no alcohol or drugs to solve the problem. While alcohol and drugs can temporarily provide temporary relief for some hours, they have very negative side effects on your mental health. While I don’t say you shouldn’t drink, you’ll find yourself in a fragile mental state after a breakup. Drugs and alcohol will only increase the pain and cause you to make poor decisions that you’ll regret once you get sober.

Many drugs and alcohol are depressants that can lead to depression chemically. This is something we want to avoid.

This is not about removing alcohol from your life, but instead of trying to cover it up, you must face the problem head-on.

Avoid alcohol and drugs for at least 90 days following a breakup. Depending on how long the relationship lasted, you may need to stay away for up to 6 months.

Keep Social: Try to get out of your home at least once a week. Go outside at least two to three times per Semaine and get out into the open. You create the perfect environment to encourage depression by staying in your own home.

Staying busy is key to getting over a breakup. You can’t dwell on the loss of one person if you have a life you love.

If it happens within the first week after your split, I can understand why you want to stay in your home. After that, you should get out of your home and start to explore the world. Get in touch with your family and friends or use meetup.com to attend a few events each week.

If you don’t take good care of your body and mind, you will not be able to heal from a serious breakup. If you don’t break these non-negotiables, the pain from the breakup will last longer.

The Weekly Plan

You will also need to make a weekly plan using the information above. You keep it in your phone, on a piece paper, or on your computer. It is something you will use every day.

This is what I wrote on a piece of paper near my bed. It was the first thing I read when I woke up in the morning.

1. Gym: Exercise 5x per week to reach 175 lbs. Swim, run, hike, and meditate daily.
2. Healthy eating: Green smoothies, more protein, and more vegetables, no junk food.
3. Build knowledgeformen.com for your business 10 hours per day
4. Participate every week in a mastermind group by joining a mastermind group
5. Toastmasters is a place to get involved every week
6. At least one meetup.com event should be attended each week
7. Every week, make new friends.
8. Read personal development, entrepreneurship, success books every day
9. Write down five things that you are grateful for each morning at 7 am
10. Never walk past a woman you find attractive, but say “hi” to every girl that interests you.

It is possible to create five to ten things you want to live by each day. If you stick to your plan, you will start to see amazing things happen in your life.

Porn and masturbation

This is a period when men don’t have a sexual life. I encourage mild porn and masturbation, not rebound sex with other women or to have one-night stands.

This is especially true for someone who has just been through a breakup.

Although this is not a time when I would recommend masturbation or porn to a man, it’s almost like giving CPR. It’s worth taking the risk to save someone’s life by breaking their ribs.

I would prefer you to masturbate at home with porn than go out and drink and maybe sleep with someone else. This is a temporary fix or cover-up of the real problem. You, her or an STD could be more severe if you sleep with them.

Masturbation and porn can decrease the desire to have sex with women. The best thing you can do right now is to feel the pain, to self-reflect, and to start the healing process.

For the first three months, masturbating and watching porn should be limited to one per day. If necessary, increase it to every other day and gradually decrease it thereafter.

I don’t want to encourage you to become addicted to masturbation and porn. However, I don’t think it is wrong to have an urge to do so after a breakup.

In a later section, we’ll discuss getting back into dating.

Get support

This is the right time to reach out and support your family members and friends. Let your family know that you are experiencing a difficult time and ask them to support you at least once per week for 3 months.

Reach out to the people you care about. Be open, honest, and vulnerable about what’s going on.

This is not something you can do on your own. You will need to have the support of people who care about you. As men, we often think we can handle this on our own. However, a split is a serious problem. You will recover faster if you have the support of others.

To get the support and help you need, share your feelings with people who care about you.

Do not build a wall around yourself to keep others from supporting you. Accept that you are hurting and then open your arms to receiving support.

If you are still crying on the sofa or experiencing severe pain after one year, you might consider seeking professional help such as a counselor or therapy to provide ongoing support.

Don’t be afraid to seek professional or family support.

Human emotions are normal and you can feel them. A breakup is extremely painful for both men and women.

The Letter

Write down all your feelings about your ex.

What happened to the relationship?

Which incidents are you replaying in your mind?

“If I had done only this …” those stories.

What sequence of events caused the split?

Did you see any of these events in the beginning?

If you had the chance to talk to your ex, what would you tell her right now?

You can send it to her on one page or in a whole notebook. It is only for you.

This is the best place to vent all your feelings about the relationship. I want you come to an understanding and forgiveness place for everything that happened.

“I was happy to share a portion of my life with your, and I learned much about myself. But now it’s time for me to move on and start a new chapter in my life.”

This letter is not required to be sent to your partner. It is impossible to change what has already happened. This letter is for you to reflect on yourself and your relationship.

You are only opening the wound and adding salt to it if you hand the letter to your partner. Let it heal. You don’t have to think that you will get it back together.

It was a relationship that ended, now it is time to move on.

When you’re done with your letter, I ask you to take out the notebook or paper.

The act of burning a letter signifies the release and the beginning of a new chapter in your life.

It is an emotional experience that should not be forgotten. However, it is necessary to do this as part of your journey to recovery.

This allows you to accept the past and create a new space for possibilities.

Stepping Into Abundance

You need to realize that you are not alone in finding attractive women who are close to you. While you don’t need to get back into dating, you should know that there are many women who are attracted and interested in you.

You are not the only one who will be attractive to your ex. Many other women are equally attractive if they are not already.

You can visit tinder every week to see all the beautiful women in your area. It doesn’t matter if you are interested in dating, but it is worth checking out how many women live within 10 miles of your home.

You can also create a list of 25 gorgeous women you like. These women are not porn stars or Victoria’s Secret models. They are simply beautiful women you like. It is good to know there are many women in your local area that you find attractive.

It was very comforting to open the document, scroll through it and see all the beautiful women I’d chosen for it. It made me realize that there are many beautiful women out there, and I wanted to be the man these women desire to be with.

This is what you should be aiming at.

How to channel your anger in the right way

You can feel angry when you break up. What made her do that or that? Why does she move so fast? Is it because she is smiling with another man in the photo?

You can either let anger control your life in a negative manner or use it as fuel to rebuild your life.

You have the freedom to choose.

This could either be a benefit or a disadvantage.

You have the freedom to choose.

Look at your anger and pain from the breakup as a way to reinvent yourself and create the life you desire.

You will be able to recover faster if you don’t view the split as a negative or a setback in your life.

In Japanese, “crisis” means danger + chance.

Many men become blinded by danger and miss the real opportunity that a split presents.

If you are willing to look for the good in a relationship, there are many things you can learn from it.

Instead of getting angry and drowning yourself in drugs, alcohol, or excessive porn, masturbation,

Write down the goals you wish to achieve and then take action.

You can be relentless in the pursuit of your goals and become a huge action-taker. You get results by taking action. The more you get results the more you will be addicted to them.

Let’s suppose you want to be in the best shape possible. Instead of blaming your ex, run, visit the gym or buy healthy food supplements. Your anger can be channeled towards your goals.

You might also want financial freedom. To do this, you should read the best books about business, sales, and marketing. Start taking medication each day to build your business and do the work you need.

If you could have completely recovered from the breakup and channeled your anger towards your goals and were in the best shape of life, then that would make it all worth it.

It is important to stop trying to hide the pain and start to do positive things to rebuild your life.

Rebuild Your Life

Hobbies: After a divorce, get out as much as you can. What hobbies have you given up? What hobbies would you like to try? Begin these hobbies and find people who share your interests.

You are asked to think of 3 hobbies you enjoyed doing in your past or would like to do again. Then, commit to these hobbies regularly.

Goals: Write down one major goal for each area of your life, and then commit to it.

1. Health
2. Wealth
3. Relationships
4. Personal Growth

Ask yourself: “What is the first step to reaching each goal?”

Friends: Choose 5 friends you want to reconnect with or have lost touch. Losing friends from your girlfriend’s social circle

I would like you to call each of these friends and arrange a coffee/lunch/fun date. Spend time with your friend at least once per month after the fun outing.

Family: Name 5 relatives that you are looking to reconnect with or have lost touch.

Now I would like you to call each of them and tell them what you are doing. Then, schedule a coffee/lunch/fun event with them. Spend time with the family member after the outing at least once per month.

Take care of yourself. List five things you can do for yourself.

You can do these things: get a massage, meditate, read, travel, take a personal development course or coach your life, talk to a mentor, buy new clothes.

I urge you to do the following 5 things for yourself each month. Since you don’t have to spend it on your ex anymore, now you can use that extra money to take care of yourself. This is crucial for your recovery.

Kaizen: Kaizen means “to improve oneself every day” in Japanese. Each day I want you to go to bed smarter than the day before and closer to your goals. As a man, you will become more powerful the more you grow and improve.

You must realize that the end of a relationship is an opportunity to reinvent yourself and reach your goals.

This is how you can feel your pain and make amazing things happen in your own life.

Find Your Purpose

Find your true self and discover what speaks to you the most. It will help you to find your purpose and push you in the right direction.

1. What is it that makes you feel alive?
2. What activities can cause you to lose track of your time?
3. What would regret you not doing, being, or having in your life?
4. What would you do if money was not an object?

You can only reconnect with your purpose when you are focused on this “one thing.” This is one of the best ways to heal from a split. You are completely absorbed in the task and don’t think about losing this person.

You will find that there is no time for you to think about them. Instead, you are focused on your purpose and your path in life and what you need to do with your life.

You will forget about your ex and realize that you were holding yourself back from realizing your true purpose in life.

This was meant to end so you could do the “thing” you’ve always wanted and be the man you were made to be.

What to do if she comes back to you

If you stop making contact and work on improving your life, it is likely that she will be attracted to you once again. You may be able to show her that things are going well and that you have made big changes in your professional and personal lives.

These are signs that a man is not dependent, clingy, or jealous and is on his way to achieving his purpose and path in life.

This is very appealing.

Don’t do these things in the hope that someone else will follow you. No matter what, you will improve your life for the better.

If she does return to you, however, don’t let your focus shift from your purpose and your improvement on your life to the girl. You shouldn’t be trying to “get” the girl, or get her back.

Keep doing the same thing. If you feel that talking with her is worth your time, energy, and effort, then talk to her. But don’t get too excited about talking to her again.

Keep going with the same course, even if she comes along, but don’t chase after her.

After gaining more clarity and self-reflection, you can decide that ending the relationship was the right thing to do. If you feel that it is, and you believe you should be apart, you can respectfully decline her invitation to visit you.

Keep doing what’s right because it’s effective.

Getting Back Into Dating

If you’ve completed these activities and are starting to notice a desire for other women, it might be time to start dating.

This is an important part of fully healing from a breakup. If a man can’t successfully date another woman or settles for women below his standard (or his ex-girlfriend), he will feel like he has already had the best woman possible and has lost her.

This can often cause a man to try to make things work again with his ex-girlfriend, even though he has done all the work.

It is important to realize that you can date any woman you like, even if your ex-girlfriend was not the one you love.

You will love and feel loved again.

To date high-quality women, you must be a man of high quality. This is done by getting rid of all neediness, clinginess, jealousy, and becoming an individual of value.

If you improve all aspects of your life, including your health, wealth, relationships, and personal growth, then you’re living your true purpose.

You are very attractive.

This man I call The Grounded Man.

A man who is determined and pursues his goals with all of his might.

My Amazon bestseller The Dating Book for Men is a proven 7-Step System to Master Your Relationship Life.

This book is a step-by-step guide that will show you how to attract and love the women you desire.

The Awakening

I want men to wake up and pursue what is important in their lives. You can see the difference now, I’m sure.

You only live once so make the most of it.

You can have everything you want. All you have to do is be the person you deserve.

Men reach out to me most when they want to be stronger men. So I created a program to help them become their most powerful selves.

My program, The Awakening, is a three-day intensive men’s retreat that I offer in San Diego.

I assist men to bridge the gap between where they are and where they want to go, as men. I have been doing this for hundreds of men through my intensive live programs.

Last Thoughts

This has been a difficult journey and I understand that it is not an easy one. Although you are likely still suffering and have reached the end of this guide, it is just a tool to help you on your path to healing. You will need to practice the strategies in this book regularly to recover from a split.

It will not be easy and it will be difficult. There will be nights when you cry and wake up in the middle of the night unable to go back to sleep.

You will have moments in your life that seem meaningless and you feel like you lost it with your ex. But the truth is, you still have your whole life ahead of you.

This guide will help you create a new life.

• You can get in better shape.
• Earn more.
• You can have a better relationship.
• Rebuilding old relationships with family and friends is possible.
• You can rediscover your purpose and live it.
• You can relocate to a better place or city where you want to live.

There is so much you can live for and there are many opportunities for the future if you keep your feet on the ground, get up every time you fall, and continue to work hard.

You will get better over time if you keep going. And you’ll love and be loved again.

You should be focusing on your own personal growth. To improve your life, you must work on yourself. You can increase your worth and be the man you’ve always wanted to be. Be the man women want to chase.

Take a look at every aspect of your life, and work together to make it all worthwhile. You should surround yourself with people of high quality who do amazing things with life. Enjoy a lot of fun and try new things. Get out more and meet new people. Explore the world and take more chances. You will feel more fulfilled and connected to your life.

When you are the right man, you will find the right woman for your life. There are many beautiful women who would love to be with your man. There are many beautiful women out there who would love to be with you. There are women out there who are more qualified than you have ever been.

A beautiful woman will understand you and respect you. She will motivate you, belief in you, support you and push you to be a better man.

You are already dead, so there is nothing you can lose. You have had many close calls in life that could have ended your life. Enjoy your life and be happy to live.

Now is the time to do the work and make the life you desire.

No contact

You can just stop.

You should immediately stop all contact with your ex if the breakup happened in recent times. This includes phone calls, text messages, emails, and social media.

For the next 90-days, do not contact her nor look at any photos or videos she has taken.

If you share the same social circle or work together, you should try to minimize or eliminate contact.

I would not recommend that you try to become friends with your ex in less than 90 days. It’s still too emotional and will only cause more pain and prolong your recovery.

Prioritize your mental, emotional, and physical health before you even consider talking to your ex.

It only makes it more difficult for you; each time you contact her, it’s almost like putting salt on an open wound. Although the wound is healing, you keep opening it up every time you try to contact her or look at old photos and videos.

You can start the healing process now by putting an end to all contact with her.

You Want Her Back

The only thing that we can think about after a breakup is “How to get her back?”

This is actually more scientific than we usually think.

Let me introduce you to the term “Homeostasis”.

Your mind becomes used to normalcy, complacency, and this is why you want her back so much.

It is a shock when you suddenly make a change in your life.

This homeostasis is influenced in large part by relationships. Breakups can shock the whole system.

Your head is spinning and you don’t know what to do. Your brain wants to be with that person again, to restore normalcy and rebuild your homeostasis.

You may think it is over but there are still chances of you getting back together. It was a time when you shared intimate and vulnerable moments together. She can’t ignore this, right?

She is an ex for good reason.

The relationship didn’t work.

Even though you shared intimate moments, it wasn’t enough to end the friction between you.

The pain of ending a relationship was greater than the pain of trying to keep it together and making it last longer.

Your relationship is not sustainable.

You tried and she tried to make the relationship last for as long as possible.

If you don’t end the relationship now, you will eventually do so in the future, when more is at stake (children and finances).

This is a way to save time, money, and energy by not being together.

It hurts me to be so blunt, but I am aware of your current situation. However, you must understand that time spent with someone you don’t want to be with is time away from someone you should be with.

You must move out of a home you love and have lived in.

You can be thankful for the split, and you are free to live the life you deserve.

Trust me.

This is not a feeling that only she can give you.

You will experience true passion again and life can get better.

Accepting that the relationship is over

Do not ask “Why?” What did I do to deserve this? What did I do wrong to deserve this?

Don’t blame yourself.

It is impossible to know why someone does something.

These questions will not help you, so stop asking them over and over. You will be in an endless loop and experience more confusion if you continue to question yourself.

You can make up stories in your head.

What if I had done it differently?

What if I had said that?

What was it that she did when she did this?

Are we still friends?

I need closure.

All I need is to make sense of it all.

I have one last thing for her.

I want to be there for her if she wishes to get back together.

I’m really horny, and I want my girl back.

All of these thoughts and questions are not going to help. You will continue to live in pain if you keep creating stories about “what if” scenarios in your head.

Instead of living a full life, some guys spend years reliving and reliving past experiences with their ex.

Sometimes a happy ending does not have to involve the girl. Sometimes, it’s you and your journey forward.

Are you able to see that breaking up allows you to become something greater?

You can move on to becoming the strongest version of yourself.

It’s not a bad spot to be.

Stop fighting for her, even if she’s not fighting for you. Instead, fight for yourself!

Remember how amazing you are. Your happiness cannot be placed in the hands of someone else. It is your chance to regain your freedom and happiness.

It is up to you to decide that you want to go on. It won’t happen by simply reading this. But you can start moving mentally and physically in that direction.

You must stand up and say, “I don’t care how difficult this will be, but this won’t get me down.” I will move on with my own life. Your potential is limitless. So go ahead and live the life you want.

3 Daily Affirmations to Regain Your Power

These 3 affirmations are loud enough to help you regain control of your life.

1. No woman can compare me to the man I am.
2. No woman can alter my masculinity.
3. My amazing smile is unmatched by any woman on the planet.

You feel broken inside after a split. You felt that you were not “man enough” to be her man. This is something all women feel.

You can somehow associate your ex with all women, but you still have to admit that you are flawed.

It’s easy to believe that there is something missing from your life.

You begin to believe everything your ex said about you at the end is true.

You might have made mistakes, but they are not your fault.

As a human being, you are constantly learning and growing.

A woman can’t define her self-worth and worthiness as a man. Reciting the affirmations above daily will help you keep your inner state in control.

You were going to lose her in either direction

You were going to lose her no matter what you tried or could do differently. There is nothing you can change.

• She will die.
• You will die.

Take a moment to think about it.

It is important to accept the fact that relationships won’t last forever.

They come to an end, either intentionally or unintentionally.

You can either get sick and then die in ten years or get into an accident and be dead three months later. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a terrible death. Natural causes are possible, which is what everyone will experience at one point or another.

The moment you first laid eyes on one another and began to kiss, the pain of losing was there.

This is the compromise we often overlook when we fall in love.

It was inevitable that you would feel the same pain no matter what. But instead of being five, ten, or twenty years from now, you’re feeling it right now.

The breakup is actually good for you because you and no one else died.

The world is at your fingertips.

Now you have the freedom to be with someone else again and to live a more fulfilling life.

Accept the fact that you will experience pain now, regardless of what.

All relationships that are “perfect” will eventually end.

Losing someone you love is not something that happens alone.

You did nothing wrong.

It is a fact of life that someone will eventually die.

Be happy about the ending of your relationship and enjoy the wonderful memories you shared together.

These lessons can be applied to your life and your next relationship to make it even more wonderful.

Handling Social Media After A Break-Up

I can understand why you are upset and possibly pissed off. This is something I have done in the past and I want you to avoid it. The role of social media in our lives is important today. Here’s how you can avoid regretting using social media after a split.

Switch your social media profile to “In a Relationship” after a split. You shouldn’t put “Single” on your social media profile. This is a rude gesture to your ex, and it’s a way of showing the world that you are trying to rebound. You don’t have to tell your social media friends about the current status of your relationship.

You don’t have to unfriend her or unfollow them. Instead, you should have a way to “hide” posts from her so that she doesn’t have to be followed or kept up to date with all her activities.

Stalking her and her friends via social media will make you insane, cause more pain, and slow down the healing process.

Do the same for her friends, so you don’t get their updates on a daily basis.

It’s difficult to accept that she is not a part of your life anymore.

Take control of your pain

Let yourself grieve and feel the pain of the breakup. Let your emotions flow, dammit!

Men have a problem: We tend to keep our emotions inside, and pretend they will go away by themselves. Men often mistakenly believe that feeling emotions is a sign of weakness. However, you may be in great pain due to the loss of your partner. Instead of trying to ignore or push it away, you must accept the loss and accept the pain.

You can ignore the pain and prolong healing. It will also haunt you for years if you don’t address your emotions.

This strategy will help you face the pain head-on.

1. Allow 2 hours of mourning for the first week after the breakup.
2. Allow 1 hour of mourning per day for the 2nd week after the breakup.
3. Allow 30 minutes each day for mourning during the third week of separation.
4. Allow 20 minutes each day for mourning in the fourth week of disintegration
5. Allow 10 minutes each day of mourning after 4-8 weeks of separation.
6. Allow 5 minutes to a maximum of 16 weeks for the breakup.
7. 16+ weeks of the breakup, allow 1 minute each day.

*The length of your relationship will affect how long you spend together. If necessary, add more time.

Allow yourself to fully experience the breakup for the duration of the relationship. Don’t be afraid to let your emotions out. It is not wrong to feel your emotions. Unfortunately, too many men keep the pain of a breakup in their heads instead of experiencing it. This only slows down the healing process.

After the time limit expires, you can stop and pick yourself up again. Then, go on with your day. You must be able to get up from the floor and not just lie there in pain the whole day.

This is to make sure that the breakup doesn’t dominate your thoughts for 24 hours. Instead, acknowledge that you are still recovering from the breakup and that you will take your time to heal.

You may find that you no longer need the allotted time and that it is a bother to give your ex more time.

This indicates that you are making progress and your ex is less involved in your life.

It could happen again in the future, so you can simply re-evaluate this strategy until her thoughts diminish slowly.

This strategy will allow you to get rid of the pain faster than dragging it out for years.

The 5 Stages Of Grief

Let’s look at the five stages of grief and how they relate to the breakup.

1. Negating the event and isolating oneself. Making up stories about how things were better and focusing on the positive memories. This can lead to a lot of emotional distress.
2. Anger phase: When reality hits, you realize that the person you have been closest to is not going to be there anymore. This phase is usually at night and often leads to alcohol abuse or drug abuse. It is best for men to channel their anger in a healthy and positive way during this phase. You will feel more depressed if you combine the pain of a breakup with drugs and alcohol.
3. Bargaining. Negotiating, threats, changing, making changes, and promising to be better. This is when the man becomes too dependent and clingy which drives the woman away. This type of bargaining mentality is prevented by “no contact”.
4. Situational depression is when you are stuck in bed staring at a wall for hours, days or weeks. Accepting that this is part of the healing process will help you function better than if your focus is on the despair you feel.
5. Acceptance: Finding peace with the loss and moving on. Acceptance: Being at peace with your loss and accepting that it was necessary. Let go of the past and move on to a new chapter in your life. Although you may still be sad, you are now free to move on and let go of any possibility of your ex getting back together.

Which stage of your divorce are you currently at?

Can you see the phases changing with time?

Understanding the phase in which you are at the moment will allow you to understand the reasons you feel the way you do. This will enable you to accept the current state of your emotions and not resist it.

Instead of ignoring the pain, feel it and be present to it.

It is not about fighting emotions. Accepting them and embracing them will help you heal from any pain. And with time, this too will pass.

While many things can be fixed in this life, relationships between people are often not.

The other person is already on a ship that is setting sail. You can’t be together anymore because you aren’t meant to be together anymore.

Understanding the Biology Behind a Breakup

In the 21st Century, where billions of people live together, the human brain wasn’t designed to survive. It makes sense that if one person dies, the other one may also die. This would make it so that they would not be able to survive for long periods of time, if not their entire lives.

A woman can give a man everything he needs, including the ability to have children, care for them, and love and connection.

This was a dangerous situation for a man who lost his wife suddenly. Today, however, there are billions upon billions of females in the world. There are currently millions of women all around you, so you have endless options for finding what you need.

Our brains aren’t as advanced as our times, so we still feel the same emotions that we might not be able to survive or get through life after a breakup.

It is important to distinguish between reality and what our primal brain feels.

You can find another woman and you will love her again.

It’s going to be OK. In fact, this guide will help you to survive the breakup.

The male mind wants to reproduce with another woman. To make you happy, connected, and attached to another female during sexual moments, your brain releases chemicals such as serotonin or vasopressin. Your brain wants to keep you connected with that female so you can procreate.

Your body is sending chemicals to your brain telling you to stay with the woman. Your brain knows that your chances of having a child are higher if you stay with a woman for a longer time. This is exactly what your brain wants.

You are genetically wired to desire sex in order to eventually procreate.

You are therefore actually under the influence (made in your brain) of drugs to keep you connected with a woman. This is what we call “love” today. It can drive you to make bad decisions and sacrifice your needs to continue receiving “love chemicals.”

A man experiencing a breakup is also experiencing a withdrawal from love chemicals such as serotonin or vasopressin. This is similar to what drug addicts experience when they try to get sober.

Both are in great pain and will do whatever it takes to get the drugs they need to feel better.

After a breakup, it is not always the woman you want back but the chemicals you miss. Although you may not want her back, you have developed an addiction to the chemicals your brain releases when you spend time with her.

This is why it is important to understand that these chemicals can be obtained from another woman.

If you have recently broken up with someone, you should stay single for at most 6 months. However, you need to realize that you are not the only woman who can make you feel that way.

It’s often not her. In most cases, it’s the chemicals you want. Many women can also make you feel those chemicals.

Trust me when you say that you will find another woman to love and be loved again.

Your ex-girlfriend has moved on

After a breakup, one of the most difficult thoughts for a man is to think about his ex with another man.

This can be the hardest part of a split, especially if it seems that she has moved on faster than you.

She appears to be happy going out with friends and has photos of herself with other men on social networks.

It is more of a strike against your ego than anything else.

This can frustrate or motivate men to harm themselves, their women, or other people.

This energy must be stopped and controlled.

Accept that she will be out having fun and dating other men.

Do not react to her behavior by forcing yourself to have sex with other women.

Start dating when you come from a place where there is abundance, not scarcity.

Although you may not be ready, it is a sign that you are ready to let go of your relationship.

Men can get angry at the thought of their ex moving on quickly. In a later section, I will share how this is a good thing and how you can make this anger work for your benefit.

Clarity is Key

You should be alone in nature without any technology. I recommend that you bring a pen and paper so you can think through the breakup. Spend at least an hour outside writing.

The top five reasons for the split are listed below. Next, you will need to take out 2 of these reasons so you have only the top 3.

Write down 10 things about her that you like, and 10 things about her that you don’t like.

This is a sign that you are not able to list 10 things you like about her. However, you might find it difficult to list 10 things you love about her.

Ask yourself these questions:

• Are her efforts worth it?
• Did she make you a better man by making you feel special?
• Did she reflect your values?
• Did it have to do with sex?
• Are you willing to suffer for her?
• Did I settle with this woman?
• Can I do better?
• Are you afraid I won’t find someone else?

Now think of 10 women you have had a crush on. Imagine all these women dressed up and looking at you.

Would you be willing to walk up to your ex-partner?

What can you conclude about the dissolution of the union after answering all the above questions?

These questions will help you to get a better understanding of your life in the past few months. If you answered no to many of these questions, it may be a sign that she is not compatible with your long-term goals.

What is the average time it takes to get over a breakup?

There is no perfect formula. However, it is possible to take half of the time.

Give yourself six months if it was a one-year relationship.

It can take up to 2 years for a 5-year relationship to heal completely.

Every relationship is unique and will experience different levels of love and connection. You must allow yourself to heal fully and to grieve the loss of a loved person.

You will be able to love again and fully recover. It will take some time.

Contemplating Suicide

This is the sign that you should not kill yourself.

Your unique talents, skills, and creativity are needed around the world. You have the potential to make a difference in the world.

Sometimes, all it takes to keep fighting is a sign to let you know someone cares.

Although suicide doesn’t eliminate the possibility of your life becoming worse, it does remove the entire possibility that you will live a happier life.

Even though you feel like you are in terrible pain, don’t lose heart and give up on your life. You may feel as though you’re in a terrible nightmare, and you feel hopeless. But keep fighting for the next day.

You can build inner strength, courage, and resilience by never giving up on yourself.

You’re here for a reason, and ending your life is not the way to success.

Stop contemplating suicide and make a commitment to living a happier life.

You are right here.

You and I.

I understand that you don’t want to die. You just want the pain to stop.

Let me show you how I do it.

*If you need someone to talk to immediately, then please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) or visit suicidepreventionlifeline.org